For men, divorce can be quite devastating. It can leave a sense of failure that can be difficult to overcome. To make it worse, you likely won’t be able to see your children as often as you were used to. This begs the question—how can you be the best possible father in the months and years following your divorce? The following tips will help give you some great ideas that will help to strengthen your bond with your children and give you a strong sense of purpose as a father.
Just Be Yourself
There is no shortage of “how-to” books and other resources that will try to tell you how to be a great father. They can often offer some great advice and help you decide what to do in some situations. The fact is, however, that nobody knows how to best parent your children better than you. Listen to your own instincts and be yourself with your kids. You’ll make mistakes, learn from them, and try new things. In the end, that is what all parenting really is, whether you are divorced or not.
Remember: Your Kids Aren’t “Just Visiting”
If your child custody agreement has your children at your home only part of the time, it can be tempting to look at it as if your kids are “just visiting” when they are there. It is important to do everything you can to ensure you are treating the kids like they live there and that they’re comfortable. This means having a standard set of rules in place, having regular chores, and that they have their own spaces. Children can better adjust (and will be happier to come over) when they feel that they have two homes that are consistent with their needs and schedules.
Try to Build Great Memories
Fathers and mothers each bring very different things to the table when it comes to parenting, and that doesn’t end just because of a divorce. One of the things that fathers excel at is making great memories with their children. Plan exciting things for them such as hunting or fishing trips, camping trips, or days at an amusement park to make these memories. It could even be you just taking them to gymnastics or karate and staying to support them and give them an audience.
In addition, when you are at home, you can play video games with them or make dinner with them helping you. All of these small things will make a lasting positive impression for you and your children.
Some Days Will Be Boring… And That’s Just Fine!
While making great memories is certainly important, also remember that many days will be average or boring, and that is a good thing. If your children come over after school, make sure they are getting their homework done, eating a healthy dinner, and going to bed at a reasonable time. While this doesn’t sound exciting, it is good for your children and will help to give them a sense of stability.
Farber Law Celebrates Fathers
Being a father isn’t always easy, but it is the most rewarding thing you’ll ever experience. With Father’s Day in mind this month, make sure you take some time to reflect on the above-mentioned tips, and think about other ways that you can make sure you are being the best dad possible for your children.
If you need help getting started with your Florida divorce, or making modifications to an existing order, please contact a reliable Florida family lawyer to go over all your options. When you work with Farber Law, you will work with an experienced Florida divorce attorney who will fight aggressively for your interests.
About the Author: Helena Y. Farber
is an attorney in Aventura, Florida, whose practice is concentrated in the
areas divorce and family law. She can be reached at (305) 520-9205 or via email
at hyf@farberlawpa.com.
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